A friend of my daughter's has been over at our house three times in the
last 2 weeks for dinner. She eats a lot of food and then she says she
will be back in a minute and she goes outside and vomits all of that
food up. She is not a small girl and she told me she has a stomach
problem, and that her Mom knows she does this and has been seen by a
doctor. She says her doctor put her on Oxycontin, for this problem. She
is 17 years old and looks healthy, I am just worried about her. Should
I ask her Mom about this or just mind my own business?
ABSOLUTELY talk to this girl's mother. I am the mother of three
teenaged girls, and I know I would want to be told if one of my girls
was engaged in this kind of behavior.



The girl's story sounds kind of fishy (I'm pretty sure they don't put
you on a powerfully addictive narcotic painkiller for stomach
problems!) but to give her the benefit of the doubt, you could say to
the mom, "You know, Jane [or whatever her name is] spends a lot of time
at our house with my daughter, and she told me about her stomach
problem and her prescription for oxycontin. I'm sure that's really
difficult for her and for you, too - I get so concerned when she throws
up all the time. I'd like to help, if I could. Maybe if you told me
more about her stomach problem, like what the doctor says she should do
or not do, or eat or not eat, I could prepare meals and make sure we
have snacks on hand that are going to be OK for her? Or, if you just
want someone to listen, I am willing to do that, too...."



That way, you are not saying - "Look, I think your daughter is bulemic
and possibly has a problem with painkillers," but you are letting her
know the situation so she can follow up on it however she sees fit, and
offering support, too.



Equally important, though, is talking to your daughter. She needs to
know that her friend has a problem, and that how that friend is dealing
with it is not OK. Help your daughter to see that although she can (and
should) continue to befriend this other girl and support her as much as
she can, she can not "fix" her. Only the friend can fix herself!



Hope this helps....
I took your advice and talked with her Mom, as I was afraid, she did
not know any of this and she has been getting the drugs at school. Her
Mom will get her professional help! Thank you, Betsy
Dear Miss,
You are still an adult and thus owe it to a child to
try to help. Oxycontin is NOT what they give you for stomach problems.
Oxycontin is morphine for pain and likely to make a person sick to
thier stomach. That is why they often give you phenagren (spelling?) to
calm your stomach when you take the Oxy. Could be an eating
disorder-thats my bet. I would approach her mother with concern and in
a helpful manner. She may look healthy now, but that wont last if she
has an eating disorder. Her behavior and age would certainly point this
direction.
She 'seems' to have a valid explaination, and there's no physical
reason to assume anything from what you're saying. However, if you want
to talk to her mother- do it. It'll cause no trouble if she's telling
the truth, and if she's not, you could be bringing an important problem
to attention.
oh my goodness yes oxycotin was out lawed years ago it killed several
people !!! one of the side affects is it makes u skinny go to the mom
the girl is a bilimic and needs to see a pycologist this problem is
mostly mental look at her nails if thery're yellowish its for sure!! do
it nw omg and get rid of that oxycotin shes lucky shes not already dead
make 100% sure she get proffesinal help!!!
I would not think they would put a 17 year old on Oxycontin for a
stomach issue unless she has cancer. That is a seriously addictive drug
! I would say speak to her mother. At the very least tell her to stop
throwing up on your tulips and use the bathroom.
Have to agree with poopy. Oxycontin is not , I repeat, NOT, used to
treat eating disorders. Talk to the girl's mother. Unfortunately, if
her mother is aware of the situation, she may be in denial.This child
needs help.
I would be concerned for the girl. When she's puking at your house on a
regular basis, right after eating your food, it does make it your
business. It wouldn't hurt to call and have a quick chat with her mom.

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ok so i was on my pill( combined pill microgynon 30) which i got from
the doctor without permission from my mum..But she found it and took it
off me binning it three days from when i was meant to have my seven day
break.Me and my boyfriend recently had sex without a condom..I dont
know when im supposed to come on my period or what i should do.. Help ?
** ( i mean we had sex a day before she took it off me )

This is not an easy one to answer. The phrase
'recently' had sex without a condom doesn't say whether you're within
the time period for emergency contraception (and there are more options
than the pill, an emergency IUD can be fitted up to 5 days after sex
and is actually more effective than the morning after pill). You should
get withdrawal bleeding from your pill withing 7 days of stopping it,
it's not a 'period' but your body's response to falling hormone levels.
If you had unprotected sex within the seven pill free days, regardless
of what point in the pack they started, and then carried on, or are
able to carry on taking your pill, then you should be fine. if that
seven days isn't up go back to your doctor or GUM clinic, get a repeat
prescription and carry on, taking a pregnancy test 28 days after the
unprotected event to make sure you're not pregnant. If you haven't
followed these steps then its more uncertain. There are so many
variables in the efficacy of the combined pill, ranging from your
bodies efficiency in metabolising and excreting the hormones, to your
gastrointestinal floras ability to recycle the oestrogens. some women
ovulate soon after stopping the pill, for some it takes longer for
their body to resume it's normal hormonal regulation.

On another note, even if you are still a minor, which i guess you are,
if your doctor has deemed you competent to request a course of
treatment your mother can't just override that and prevent you having
treatment, and your doctor isn't obliged to get any kind of permission
from her. That said. if you're having sex at a young age I as a parent
would be concerned if it was one of my own children and while I
understand that I couldn't stop them i'd much rather sit down and talk
things through with them. The fact you didn't and your mother caught
you out is probably the reason that she was so pissed. And there is no
way in hell you should be having sex without condoms at your age, there
is no such thing as a 'safe' partner, een if you were both virgins
and/or tested, I know from bitter experience that people screw around
when they're younger and the amount of STIs in the young population is
vast. Unprotected sex should be something you have with someone in a
long term relationship who you trust absolutely implicitly.

I'm a nurse and a parent.
Try to remember when your last period was and that'll give you an idea
as to when you can expect your next one. In the future, you might want
to insist that your boyfriend use condoms or maybe go to a planned
parenthood clinic and get the depo shot - that way, your mother won't
be able to find your birth control and confiscate it.
well firstly you shouldn't have had sex without a condom when you knew
your mom took away your pill. Secondly, tell your mom, you are sexually
active and you need the pill, or just use condoms. If you've been on
the pill awhile I wouldn't worry, it's still prolly in your body

you might get pregnant so get a pregnancy test if you dont get your period within a week /10 days of your stopping of the pills.
sex with no protection may lead to pregnancy - see your doctor
get the morning after pill fast and tell your mom thanks for possibly ruining your life

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Do you have really stinky or sweaty feet and dont care to admit it? Or
are you one of those girls that try and act like your perfect?
My Feet Stink Aswell But Maybe Its Just The Shoes You Wear Or You Could Wash Them More!!



Hope This Helped
They aren't stinky and sweaty, but my toes seem to have circulatory
issues so i keep getting chillblains in the winter. Its always a gamble
to figure out if i need to be wearing my oh-so-comfy summer cotton
sports socks, or the ichy wooly ones. Oh, and it makes my toe nails and
toe tips kind of ugly, so i wear nail polish in bright colours on the
nails.
My feet stink at the end of the day. I shower every night and in the
morning put on fresh socks (I wear socks to bed) because I don't want
to risk that my feet will start stinking if I was sweating in bed. As
long as I make sure I change socks and shower nightly, the smell isn't
bad. But, if I'm running around in the heat all day -- I definitely hop
in the shower when I get home!
The soles of my feet, and palms of my hands sweat. Always. I can't help
it. My feet only stink though if I wear one pair of sneakers everywhere
I go for a long period of time. But, don't worry, sweaty feet is
normal! =P
mine do but only in my black flats. i rarely wear shoes so mine don't
that much. my sisters used to really bad and the doctor said that it
was from her not drying her feet well enough after a shower. she
started drying better and it went away.
honestly, my feet are the only thing on me that BARLEY ever sweat
unless im playing soccer, but i put babypowder on them every morning as
welll

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I was playing paintball with my stupid boyfriend and his friends last
weekend. He ended up shooting me point blank in the crotch. The
paintball nailed me right in the clitoris and I dropped to the ground.
My stupid boyfriend thought it was funny and laughed, but that is a
different matter. Anyway, two days later my clitoris and vulva are
still badly swollen and I have problems walking. It hurts bad. What
should I do? Is my clitoris damaged?
sounds like shock. swelling is a defense mechanism so that could be a
good thing that you are experiencing swelling. your body is trying ot
heal itself. it can also be a bad thing because it can also be a sign
of irritation and infection. go to the doctor if the problem persists
over 5 days.
I would think that it would be sore just from bruising. I mean, a
paintball can do major damage...my cousin just got a 3rd degree burn
from one. I would say put some ice on it and try not to do to much
walking if possible. If it is still really bad in a week go to the
doctor and have them check it out and make shur everything is ok.
unless you were laying down with your legs spread, i doubt it hit you
right in the clitoris, since this is covered by your labia. its
probably just bruising of the area. Regardless, see a doctor just in
case.

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meds work on trial and error.

I am on a new med for my thyroid, I am keeping my digits crossed that
it will help ... if it doesn't I wish someone would just let me go. I
am tired of fighting I am tired of coping I am tired of crying...
Better get out of here, into the real life and ''work'' there.

Really!

This is the only help. No pills!

The things you can do - those are the greatest! The other things - it's useless to fight with them.

The moment you leave them, they are decrypted :)



Voila! Listen to your feelings - you're afraid, it surely won't work!

Hey there!



I can definitely see your worry over the possibility that your
medication will not work. Anxiety itself bases on the impending doom of
the future. The best thing to do right now is TRY to stay calm. I mean
be proud that you are on the road to getting better. Medication is
about trial and error, good luck! Take care!
My meds sometimes get out of balance, that's why the simple and obvious
path is the one I need. Ayn Rand provides me with just such a "yellow
brick road" to follow.

my startegy when im sick is to down every bottle
of medication i can find but it never works....i just seem to get
sicker....never mind then..

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Ok i was placed on birth control pills for three months to regulate my period and now the three months have passed. i took the last active pill on April 3rd my period ended on the eleventh, i did have sex after it ended . now for the last two to three days i have been seeing light bleeding. what might this be?

i am off the pill of the pill !!! the doctor told me that after the three months do not take anymore i should just wait and see if my period becomes regular

i wouldn't wory about it, i have this prob;em to and have been to the docs about it and i still get bleeing after intercourse to but it normal because your body is still trying to regulate the menstrual cycle. i have been off the pill for 5 monnths now.

are you completely off the pills now? just the 3 month course? or are you to continue the pills?
the spotting is normal if you discontinued the pills. some teens/adults need to stay of BC continuously in order to regulate or lighten (the flow) their cycle.

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my last period was about two weeks ago and it came really early. today is probably around the time that it should have come, and today i am having brown vaginal discharge (the kind you get the day after your period is over). should i be concerned?
thank you so much for any help.

The brown discharge is just really old endometrial lining, and is probably because there hasn't been much time to build up much since your last period. You have had a cycle upset for some reason, and your body is probably trying to reset things. It generally takes a cycle or two to do that, and in the meantime odd things may happen. If things don't settle down again within two or three cycles/months, then it is a good time to visit the gynecologist.

i wouldn't be.... i had the same question for my doctor. she said that it was normal, and that i shouldn't be worried. but you can check out web M.D., or you can call your doctors when their open. i wouldn't be worried though

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Ok here's a link of a side picture of my thigh and butt.
To show you how the size is a put a DVD right in the middle.
Sorry if you're creep-ed out but I really need your help here.
http://i690.photobucket.com/albums/vv266...
Please be serious about this I just want to know if my butt is big because my friends (and even my crush) make remarks on how I have a big butt and I want to know if they're right or they're just being stupid.
Oh and here's my other information to give you. I hope this helps:
Height- 5"2
Weight-123
Age-14
Yikes! I even measured around my butt and pelvic area and the 'circumference' turned out to be 3"2
But I still need your help!
Best answer with the best help gets 10 POINTS!

look, it doesn't matter if you have a big butt or not. there are some guys that like a big butt anyway. you know, some go for legs, some go for breasts others go for bust. But that is not a very big butt at all.
Your also 14. your body is stabbing you in the back for hormones. every girls butt will look like yours within the next 3 months. so don't freak out about it.

girl, you have nice butt! its well shaped like a woman's is supposed to!
trust me, guys love that sort of stuff. bubble butts are in honey
think of the pros:
fills your jeans and gives you shape
gives you a sexy swagger when you walk
all the guys with love you for it
plus you got a nice piece of cushion to keep you comfy when you sit! lol
its not bad, i wish i had ur butt!

its a bubble but and i wish i had ur *** 0.0
i have practically no but so if i was u i would tell ur friends to stfu cuz u got a verry nice but that women would pay for lo

well i dont think its TOO big or anything, and its not like ur always gonna be werin pants that tight, but if u needa lose some weight, squats are the best exercise for the butt. If done correctly squats will tone, firm and tighten the butt muscles all in one giving a slimmer appearance from the hips down. Squats also have the added advantage of toning the legs to give them a more shapely appearance.

You don't have a " big " butt... but maybe bigger than average x]
The DVD in the middle shows that your butt is alot bigger than the DVD... but it isn't really a problem :) Alot of people like big butts, and it isn't that big, just maybe a bit bigger than average :)
I'm not creeped out don't worry, I just find it funny xD
Hope I have helped.
Sorry I'll try to be serious...
Your butt isn't big it's just bigger than average.
Your friends and your crush are just over exadurating.
They are just joking around and over exadurating don't worry :)
They're just being silly :)
Okay that circumference is a litttle urm, large... x]
Yeah, your butt is probably bigger than average.

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The more deeply you understand people, the more you will appreciate them, the more reverent you will feel about them. To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground.
- Stephen R. Covey
I send this quote out with the full knowledge that most people have not experienced and will likely never have the experience of touching the soul of another human being.
Set aside any concepts you have about (or negative feelings against) the human soul. They are irrelevant to the discussion.
We tend to think of the soul as something revealed to us by the religion of our childhood, something we have when we are born. I disagree. I believe the soul is something you find during your lifetime, if you are fortunate. Soul is God within you. Either you can feel it under certain conditions or you cannot. If you can't, you likely have not discovered the essence of your soul. You may never find it if you look to others to grant it to you.
To "walk on holy ground" is not just for those who have been "born again in Jesus" or who are Sufi Muslims or mystics of other flavours. What Covey means by this is something akin to an enlightenment, a very special feeling that can't be described in words to those who have not experienced it.
Those who deeply understand people appreciate how similar we are, whether man or woman, mechanic or doctor, terrorist or preacher, child or ascetic.
Am I saying that you are like a terrorist who would blow up himself (or herself) as well as many others? Yes, at the core we are all the same. We all have the same needs. We may react differently when our needs are not met. And that happens a great deal more than most of us realize. More than some of us want to know or acknowledge.
Statistics have noted that terrorists often have college degrees and come from middle class families. But education does not come from school. School only teaches us how to educate ourselves. I received my baccalaureate when I could barely read, in fact never having read a prescribed course text. I could only read a tiny bit better when I received my postgraduate degree. No one today would deny my education.
We have needs that most of us do not realize. When those needs are not met, we can't focus on advancing ourselves in other ways, be they intellectually, socially or otherwise.
In order to "walk on holy ground," to feel the enlightenment, to have an appreciation of the human soul, to understand the reality of God and to have the experience of touching the soul of another, we must have our needs met. Those needs include social and emotional needs as well as physical and intellectual.
The latter two--the main ones focussed upon by our education systems--cannot be optimized unless the first two needs are met. A student may pass a course, but not achieve the level of education of which he or she has potential if their social and emotional needs have not been met.
Only when social, emotional, intellectual and physical needs have been met (for the most part) will a person have the potential to become enlightened and to show the way to others. To show the way for others becomes a personal quest, a need in itself so that the teacher and the student may touch each other's souls in the way that Steven Covey describes.
It has been said many times in many different cultures that if you can't find God within yourself, you will never find God in a church, synagogue, mosque or temple.
To feel God is to find your own soul within yourself. To touch the soul of another, to communicate with another soul, is the ultimate human experience.
If you believe this is bunk, then you won't find your own soul and you will likely have trouble believing in God. So be an agnostic or an atheist for the rest of your life. No one will care.
If you one day believe that you have formed a special relationship with someone, perhaps through a shared experience or a discussion, something that goes far beyond what you have experienced previously with that person or with others, then you likely have touched souls.
You can call it love. Many do. But it's a special kind of love that goes beyond sexuality, sensuality and meeting each others social needs.
You have it within you. The potential is there for you to discover. It's up to you to find it because no one can help you.
HINT: Begin by giving of yourself to others. You will never find your own soul, never have the enlightenment, never feel the excitement of touching the soul of another if you focus on what comes to you rather than on what you can give. Those who give of themselves to others find that they receive more back. Hard to believe? Then you haven't tried it.

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