A friend of my daughter's has been over at our house three times in the
last 2 weeks for dinner. She eats a lot of food and then she says she
will be back in a minute and she goes outside and vomits all of that
food up. She is not a small girl and she told me she has a stomach
problem, and that her Mom knows she does this and has been seen by a
doctor. She says her doctor put her on Oxycontin, for this problem. She
is 17 years old and looks healthy, I am just worried about her. Should
I ask her Mom about this or just mind my own business?
ABSOLUTELY talk to this girl's mother. I am the mother of three
teenaged girls, and I know I would want to be told if one of my girls
was engaged in this kind of behavior.
The girl's story sounds kind of fishy (I'm pretty sure they don't put
you on a powerfully addictive narcotic painkiller for stomach
problems!) but to give her the benefit of the doubt, you could say to
the mom, "You know, Jane [or whatever her name is] spends a lot of time
at our house with my daughter, and she told me about her stomach
problem and her prescription for oxycontin. I'm sure that's really
difficult for her and for you, too - I get so concerned when she throws
up all the time. I'd like to help, if I could. Maybe if you told me
more about her stomach problem, like what the doctor says she should do
or not do, or eat or not eat, I could prepare meals and make sure we
have snacks on hand that are going to be OK for her? Or, if you just
want someone to listen, I am willing to do that, too...."
That way, you are not saying - "Look, I think your daughter is bulemic
and possibly has a problem with painkillers," but you are letting her
know the situation so she can follow up on it however she sees fit, and
offering support, too.
Equally important, though, is talking to your daughter. She needs to
know that her friend has a problem, and that how that friend is dealing
with it is not OK. Help your daughter to see that although she can (and
should) continue to befriend this other girl and support her as much as
she can, she can not "fix" her. Only the friend can fix herself!
Hope this helps....
I took your advice and talked with her Mom, as I was afraid, she did
not know any of this and she has been getting the drugs at school. Her
Mom will get her professional help! Thank you, Betsy
Dear Miss,
You are still an adult and thus owe it to a child to
try to help. Oxycontin is NOT what they give you for stomach problems.
Oxycontin is morphine for pain and likely to make a person sick to
thier stomach. That is why they often give you phenagren (spelling?) to
calm your stomach when you take the Oxy. Could be an eating
disorder-thats my bet. I would approach her mother with concern and in
a helpful manner. She may look healthy now, but that wont last if she
has an eating disorder. Her behavior and age would certainly point this
direction.
She 'seems' to have a valid explaination, and there's no physical
reason to assume anything from what you're saying. However, if you want
to talk to her mother- do it. It'll cause no trouble if she's telling
the truth, and if she's not, you could be bringing an important problem
to attention.
oh my goodness yes oxycotin was out lawed years ago it killed several
people !!! one of the side affects is it makes u skinny go to the mom
the girl is a bilimic and needs to see a pycologist this problem is
mostly mental look at her nails if thery're yellowish its for sure!! do
it nw omg and get rid of that oxycotin shes lucky shes not already dead
make 100% sure she get proffesinal help!!!
I would not think they would put a 17 year old on Oxycontin for a
stomach issue unless she has cancer. That is a seriously addictive drug
! I would say speak to her mother. At the very least tell her to stop
throwing up on your tulips and use the bathroom.
Have to agree with poopy. Oxycontin is not , I repeat, NOT, used to
treat eating disorders. Talk to the girl's mother. Unfortunately, if
her mother is aware of the situation, she may be in denial.This child
needs help.
I would be concerned for the girl. When she's puking at your house on a
regular basis, right after eating your food, it does make it your
business. It wouldn't hurt to call and have a quick chat with her mom.
last 2 weeks for dinner. She eats a lot of food and then she says she
will be back in a minute and she goes outside and vomits all of that
food up. She is not a small girl and she told me she has a stomach
problem, and that her Mom knows she does this and has been seen by a
doctor. She says her doctor put her on Oxycontin, for this problem. She
is 17 years old and looks healthy, I am just worried about her. Should
I ask her Mom about this or just mind my own business?
ABSOLUTELY talk to this girl's mother. I am the mother of three
teenaged girls, and I know I would want to be told if one of my girls
was engaged in this kind of behavior.
The girl's story sounds kind of fishy (I'm pretty sure they don't put
you on a powerfully addictive narcotic painkiller for stomach
problems!) but to give her the benefit of the doubt, you could say to
the mom, "You know, Jane [or whatever her name is] spends a lot of time
at our house with my daughter, and she told me about her stomach
problem and her prescription for oxycontin. I'm sure that's really
difficult for her and for you, too - I get so concerned when she throws
up all the time. I'd like to help, if I could. Maybe if you told me
more about her stomach problem, like what the doctor says she should do
or not do, or eat or not eat, I could prepare meals and make sure we
have snacks on hand that are going to be OK for her? Or, if you just
want someone to listen, I am willing to do that, too...."
That way, you are not saying - "Look, I think your daughter is bulemic
and possibly has a problem with painkillers," but you are letting her
know the situation so she can follow up on it however she sees fit, and
offering support, too.
Equally important, though, is talking to your daughter. She needs to
know that her friend has a problem, and that how that friend is dealing
with it is not OK. Help your daughter to see that although she can (and
should) continue to befriend this other girl and support her as much as
she can, she can not "fix" her. Only the friend can fix herself!
Hope this helps....
I took your advice and talked with her Mom, as I was afraid, she did
not know any of this and she has been getting the drugs at school. Her
Mom will get her professional help! Thank you, Betsy
Dear Miss,
You are still an adult and thus owe it to a child to
try to help. Oxycontin is NOT what they give you for stomach problems.
Oxycontin is morphine for pain and likely to make a person sick to
thier stomach. That is why they often give you phenagren (spelling?) to
calm your stomach when you take the Oxy. Could be an eating
disorder-thats my bet. I would approach her mother with concern and in
a helpful manner. She may look healthy now, but that wont last if she
has an eating disorder. Her behavior and age would certainly point this
direction.
She 'seems' to have a valid explaination, and there's no physical
reason to assume anything from what you're saying. However, if you want
to talk to her mother- do it. It'll cause no trouble if she's telling
the truth, and if she's not, you could be bringing an important problem
to attention.
oh my goodness yes oxycotin was out lawed years ago it killed several
people !!! one of the side affects is it makes u skinny go to the mom
the girl is a bilimic and needs to see a pycologist this problem is
mostly mental look at her nails if thery're yellowish its for sure!! do
it nw omg and get rid of that oxycotin shes lucky shes not already dead
make 100% sure she get proffesinal help!!!
I would not think they would put a 17 year old on Oxycontin for a
stomach issue unless she has cancer. That is a seriously addictive drug
! I would say speak to her mother. At the very least tell her to stop
throwing up on your tulips and use the bathroom.
Have to agree with poopy. Oxycontin is not , I repeat, NOT, used to
treat eating disorders. Talk to the girl's mother. Unfortunately, if
her mother is aware of the situation, she may be in denial.This child
needs help.
I would be concerned for the girl. When she's puking at your house on a
regular basis, right after eating your food, it does make it your
business. It wouldn't hurt to call and have a quick chat with her mom.
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